[What If This Were Enough? Essays] New Ì Heather Havrilesky
D by the constraints of blogging and fleeting online attention free to truly flex in book form the chapters can tend to the baggy Things used to have to be tighter or maybe my attention has ust shrunk Maybe in this environment I need my reasonable edicts to be delivered as precise ranting screeds eviscerating polemics that point and laugh at the misguided other in 1000 words or less insert appropriate gif meme here I was so excited for this but in the end I couldn t even finish it I felt like I got permission after the author s bizarre anti library comments
On Twitter I Get That Wasn T The Point She twitter I get that wasn t the point she While I really enjoyed Heather Havrilesky s last book of essays this one left me scratching my head as to what the point of these essays was supposed to be The book s acket informs us that many of the essays have been expanded so that might be the first major problem as many of these essays go on too long and often deviate from the main topic The title of this book led me to believe the essays would be topic The title of this book led me to believe the essays would be on 35 StarsHavrilesky s aptly named book of essays examines and critiues materialism consumption and our obsession with consumerism and the pursuit of happiness Pulling largely from pop culture and current trends and fads she delves into the world of foodies 50 Shades Disneyland The Sopranos romance and so much Each essay is strong in their own right and collectively they make a small tome that packs a punch and causes one to examine their own lust for such things DNF after a few chapters I was willing to give this a chance after her weird library Twitter kerfuffle I do generally like Ask Polly but the first few essays were soo very remember what it was like before we all used our PHONES so much that I felt free to ust nope on out of this and return it to the library from whence it came the last essay I read before I uit was about how she used to be very grumpy about the concept of Disneyland because it s so fake but then she took their kids there and had a good time but then she was grumpy again afterward because it was so fake okay Heather cool story I guess Last night after watching the first episode of Babylon Berlin I fell asleep to the police scannerA spurned ex al I really enjoy Havrilesky s advice column and was surprised to find myself feeling lukewarm to most of the essays in this collection These range from memoirs to self help which made the collection feel a bit unorganized at times. We ingest today all the while suggesting new ways we might navigate our increasingly bewildering worldThrough her incisive and witty inuiries Havrilesky emphasizes the importance of locating the miraculous within the mundane In these timely provocative and often hilarious chapters she urges readers to embrace the flawed to connect with what already is who we already are what we already have She asks us to consider What if this were enough Our salvation Havrilesky asserts can be found right here right now in this imperfect momen. Makes a capable and productive argument for the mundane parts of longlasting relationships I received a copy of this book ahead of publication date from the publisher through Edelweiss in exchange for an honest review It came out 2 October
2018 35 rounded upAn overall incredibly solid collection of essays focusing mainly on pop culture tv 35 rounded upAn overall incredibly solid collection of essays focusing mainly on pop culture celebrity tv and and the author s life mostly revolving around her familyThe pop culture essays remind me at times of the better essays in They Can t Kill Us Until They Kill Us Havrilesky covers topics as wide ranging as The Sopranos Elif Batuman s The Idiot Girls Entourage and Marie Kondo While the essays were a little overly didactic at times I found myself enjoying and getting something out of almost all of them and they were all thought provoking Recommended 15 stars that I ll round up because it takes A LOT for me to give a book one star Reading this I wondered if essay books aren t for me since this is the second one this year I ve immensely disliked but then I remembered how much
I Loved Not That loved Not That by Roxanne Gay and I realized that this book is ust bad The author sounds entitled and elitist She was also really annoyingI read this book because it was my book club s November pick My library didn t have it so I paid 16 on This was my main motivating factor to not abandon it since I paid FULL PRICE The only positive part was the beautiful artwork on the cover Unfortunately what was inside of it wasn t worth what it was printed on in my opinion Pass I ve been a fan of Heather Havrilesky since the prehistoric days of the internet when she was writing for Suckcom An ancient past when my pre work routine would consist of reading long form stories called blogs back when paragraphs weren t so intimidating Thankfully our modern era sensitive to our time constraints has since concentrated my mornings to scrolling memes instagram pics and 140 character tweets Heather is smart and acerbic and I love her voice she writes like I imagine I one day could wry observations heaped with the gloss of 10 dollar words Unfortunately I fear I ve started with the wrong book It s still her erudite and cutting wit applied to the mundanity of everyday life but it veers too close to earnest screed It s easy pickings decrying the capitalist fantasies of Fifty Shades or the insufferability of foodies Disneyland and Crossfitters To claim we need to get out and online less But unfettere. G wisdom an ability to inspire provoke and put a name to our most insidious cultural delusions What If This Were Enough is a mantra and a clarion call In its chapters many of them original to the book others expanded from their initial publication Havrilesky takes on those cultural forces that shape us From the enforced cheer of American life to the celebration of survivalism from the allure of materialism to our misunderstandings of romance and success Havrilesky deconstructs some of the most poisonous and misleading messages. .
Heather Havrilesky is an advice columnist and also known for her previous memoir How to be a Person in the World The essays are a mixture of advice for living and pop culture sometimes in strange combinations One compares Selin in The Idiot by Elif Batuman to Mozart which I didn t really think worked all that well and I ve read a lot about Mozart and loved The Idiot As per usual with this kind of book some of it didn t interest me at all often pop culture type essays of things I haven t watched and I did a fair amount
of skimming towards the end i found myself skimming Towards the end I found myself enjoying a few of the essays So while I m giving it three stars overall I will say I think there are a few that are stellar Part of my issue with the book overall is that Heather Havrilesky comes across as overly didactic I prefer to draw my own conclusions from information presented to me and I don t like being told what to do I suppose this is her advice columnist background really shining through But something about this tone also makes her sound like she is around retirement age and I get the impression she s a few decades younger than that Kids these days get off my lawn etcThe first chapter I
really liked is Haunted which yes I noticed is number 13 It starts with a focus on author Shirley liked is Haunted which yes I noticed is number 13 It starts with a focus on author Shirley zooms through female characters in tv and refocuses on Lena Dunham and her HBO show Girls A uote near the beginning sums it upFor headstrong women who knew their own desires growing up in conventional society sometimes feels like inhabiting a haunted houseI found it to be even relevant within the metoo movement and of course she does reference the Stanford rapist s victim s letter which had a pretty significant place in the larger discussion Another favorite is Bravado a chapter which looks at women and ambition It discusses the ridiculousness of the men or others in power who think of themselves as idea generators but do zero work and how they get the credit and focus while there are armies of capable women making it happen hashtag makeithappen for my library peeps It uestions why we downplay people who are capable people who aren t necessarily making bold moves but are solid and productive She ends with a call to belief in oneself and in the idea that our words matter A little dramatic but I had to agree I m not the idea that our words matter A little dramatic but I had to agree I m not to say I will be adding some uotations from this chapter to my planner at workI also liked the chapter called True Romance which. By the author of the New York Times Love and Relationships bestseller How to Be a Person in the World an impassioned and inspiring collection about the expectations of modern life and the sweet imperfections of the everydayHeather Havrilesky's writing has been called whip smart and profanely funny Entertainment Weekly and reuired reading for all humans Celeste Ng In her work for New York The Baffler The New York Times Magazine and The Atlantic as well as in her advice column for The Cut Ask Polly she dispenses a singular cuttin. .